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I woke up and realized I was alone. From my late teens and into my early twenties, strong friendships were lacking in my life. One Saturday morning as I was eating breakfast, I realized that I was lonely. I knew this needed to change, but I had no idea how to make friends.
Thankfully, I went from no idea how to build strong friendships to now having many extremely close friends in my life. Disclaimer, I just summarized years of my life into a single sentence. It does take time, but I will explain how I went from no friends to having an abundance of strong friendships that I consider to be lifelong connections. Maybe you already have friends in your life, but you just want to strengthen them.
Today, I can tell you that the strong friendships I have developed in my life have been one of the primary joys in my life. Much of where I am today, I owe to the people that have become my close friends. My inspiration for writing this post came from a time of self-reflection on the friendships in my life. First off, over the past ten years, the idea of friendship has been under attack.
Social media has made us less focused on authentic relationships and more worried about our total of digital acquaintances. True friendship cannot be formed through social media. The first step in developing stronger friendships is grasping this principle. We need to understand this — and agree with it.
In addition, most of the world has been forced into this mindset as the COVID global pandemic quarantining set a new standard for loneliness into motion. Thankfully, in-person friendships can be built and developed once again. I am a huge proponent of meeting people at church.
The 1 best place to make new friends is in church small groups. Small groups are for making friends, not forcing you into Christianity. If I were to add a 3 best place to meet people, I would say any focus group that is on a topic that interests you would be a good option as well. There is one thing that stands out among all else when it comes to meeting people and building friendships. That one thing is the ability to get out of your comfort zone. But, what good thing has ever come out of you staying in your comfort zone?
Maybe a few seconds of awkward silence, then you move on. This brings me to my first point, to have friends, you need to be a friend first. Or another way to put this, seek to be a friend. Put others above yourself. To have friends, you must first be a friend. Be proactive even if someone else never returns the favor. Get into the mindset that friendship is always about someone else, never yourself. Do for others what you wish they would do for you. Being a great conversationalist flows from these two things:.
Becoming a great conversationalist does not happen overnight. It takes years of practice. If you want to build stronger friendships in your life, get this point. I encourage you to read this post for more on the topic, 4 steps to positively impacting people around you.
Much of what people say is filler words, no one enjoys silence. If you can pick up on the things that they are passionate about and most excited about, you can encourage them in those things. First, being an encouragement is the single greatest thing you can do to energize people when you are around them.
Encouragement changes the atmosphere. Always focus on being an encouragement to those around you! Second, the people you encourage are going to want to talk to you more often. It truly is the secret sauce to building stronger friendships. You will be remembered by people you encourage, and they will seek you out next time they are in the same room as you. My next point for building stronger friendships is the least popular. Everyone likes to have fun. You probably want stronger friendships in your life because you want to have more fun.
Face value conversations are the fun ones, and the majority of them will always be this. However, getting deep on a regular basis is what develops trust and interdependence in a friendship. You have to be willing to ask deep questions about life, past, and future.
It felt really good to actually share that because I have never talked about it before. At that moment, our friendship grew because our level of trust and understanding of one another grew! I personally struggle with this one! Now on to my final point, and this is easily the most important when it comes to building lifelong friendships. This is the single greatest thing you can do if you want a friendship to last forever.
Meaningful experiences turn into lifelong memories. Really, anything you do together that would be a memorable moment of your life is when and where friendships begin to grow and strengthen. In my life, strong friendships have been formed through serving at church together, and through multiple city outreaches to help people. But the main environment that I have developed the strongest friendships in has always been church small groups.
Developing stronger friendships is a journey and learning experience for you. Your very definition of friendship is going to change over the years as you personally change. Be willing to let go of the friendships that are no longer healthy and always be searching for more friendships to develop. My mission is to live a life honorable in every way to God my father. I am passionate about building disciples and strengthening the church.
My daily goal is to be a positive influence on the people around me and to make the world a better place. Time is definitely the key. Strong friendships are rarely formed over night. They are formed through patience, fun, and often times adversity. As always you are right on time with your posts Alex. True friendships take time, patience, love and understanding. It comes with having the want and desire to speak from your heart even when it hurts.
To your point, some friendships deteriorate over time, or people grow apart. When friendships are nurtured and cared for they will continue to blossom. Treat post. So true! I probably should have said more about that. Having an option to communicate with those far away from us is a beautiful thing. Question from Alex Sanfilippo, the author. What action has helped you build stronger friendships in your life that wasn't mentioned in this post? Written by Alex Sanfilippo My mission is to live a life honorable in every way to God my father. Pingback: God's Approval vs.
Man's Approval - Which Matters More? This has become one of our most shared posts. Thanks everyone! Great post Alex, always sharing some golden nuggets. Sounds no brainer, but praying for your friends.Seeking lifelong friendship
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